"Heartily know, when half-gods go, the gods arrive." - William James
This quote really struck a nerve in me. I am not well-read on William James (and he was writing about God in the religious sense - I am not), but I see it this way: In any situation when you let go of low expectations, half-assed attempts, the fear of failing - you get the 'Gods'. To me this is not a literal god or gods, but you get the miraculous results, you get the breakthrough or the assistance of the muses. Instead of resistance, you get resistance's respect. I am referencing Steven Pressfield's amazing book The War of Art where he teaches that you must break through resistance in order to accomplish your art, and this can be applied to any endeavor. He speaks of resistance as a thing and I feel this similarity between William James' 'half-gods' and resistance. That's why, even though this book (below) is loaded with GREAT info on healing your brain, I HATE the title:
HATE. IT. Cope means to struggle or deal with. It offers no sense of finality, no sense of winning, no sense of overcoming. Dr. Diane Stoler has some great treatments and ideas for healing the brain. She writes for Psychology Today and, again (to be clear), I like her work!
I'm just talking about that word - COPE - and how powerful it is in setting the scene.
In my work, mindset is everything. In fact, it's a total fad right now! Carol Dweck popularized this term with her famous TED Talk about believing that you can improve: https://duckduckgo.com/?q=carol+dwek+ted+talk&atb=v87-4&ia=videos&iax=videos&iai=hiiEeMN7vbQ
You see, if you want anything, you have to believe you can get it. You really do. There has to be an iota of seeing a way to your goal. This concept is based on our brain's incredible neuroplasticity. The brain is flexible, will change according to demands, environmental exposures or lack of stimuli. You are the lever that turns on neuroplasticity. This is the why mindset matters so much.
If you start with the belief that coping with post-concussion syndrome (PCS) isn't acceptable and that you will find a way to heal PCS by engaging the neuroplasticity of your brain - well, you will. Resistance will be there and you'll have to work through it. The half-gods will beckon you. They will tell you that "you can manage a headache everyday, it's not so bad", or "everyone has sleep problems, afternoon energy crashes and problems with concentration, I'm sure it's nothing" - they will seduce you with coping. You can see this everywhere in our culture. People are seduced into coping with a bad job or trying to manage an abusive relationship. Their mindset is limited, if not fixed.
But you are meant for - built for - breakthroughs. Evolution made us this way. And you will see results, if and when you persevere. Mindset will get you there. Think giving up sugar is 'too hard'? That's a half-god selling you mediocrity. 'No sugar' is the realm of the Gods, and once you push through the initial resistance, not so hard, not so god-like. It might be the one step that will bring you back from the brink of migraines or low performance at work.
The thing is, we are afraid. Pressfield says it best. "Fear doesn't go away. The warrior and the artist live by the same code of necessity, which dictates that the battle must be fought anew every day.” We choose the half-god life because it's secure, and we probably won't fail or be disappointed. We can cope with brain-fog, it's familiar - clarity is unfamiliar. Unfamiliar is uncomfortable and it's also where neuroplasticity happens. Uncomfortable is where learning happens. So when the half-gods go, you get the Gods:
What do you want? It's all on the other side of fear. It's behind the curtain of resistance. It's when you kick the half-gods out of your life that the Gods enter. So don't cope, manage, get by or live with. Kick in your evolutionary right - neuroplasticity - and change, grow, learn, challenge, confront, grapple with, push, strive and learn your way into a new reality.