My life isn't perfect. #surprise
It's good and often, good-enough. But far from perfect. Right now, right this very minute, I am in a shitstorm of stress. Multiple people in my big family are freaking out over various things from big stuff to small stuff. Some of these things affect me personally, others are just peripheral - but these are people I love and they need my support - even while I feel like I might keel over any second. It's big decisions, colliding with small problems, smashing into daily needs, demolishing my sense of peace.
So how does an 'expert' (moi) handle this shit? What do I do? How do I get from here, back to peace, tranquility, harmony and positivity?
Do not deny the shit. It's shit. Don't deny it.
Shit never lasts. Something will be different in a day, in a minute, in two years. Whatever is happening now will change. How do I know this?
Because I WILL FUCKING CHANGE THAT SHIT.
What can I control? What is out of my control? I've lived for awhile, I know the difference. i.e. Other people's reactions and feelings are out of your control. Cross that off your list. Probably some other shit is out of your control too. Cross it off your list. Do only the things you can actually control. You can probably take a day off of work. Maybe you can sign up for counseling with your spouse. You can watch a movie or listen to comedy and get some extra sleep. You can eat better, you can hug people you love. You can write in a journal, you can meditate. You can take a walk. You CAN come up with solutions to most problems.
Listen to music. Don't be embarrassed - whatever works for YOU in the moment. My husband loves that Limp Bizkit song "Break Stuff". I can relate. I prefer this one. Why? The first line. It reminds me of who I am. #changeyourstate
Take care of yourself. Today, I went to yoga anyway. I hated it. But I did feel better. I'll go again tomorrow. I'll drink a little wine (hangovers suck and solve nothing - I repeat - A LITTLE wine) tonight and listen to John Mulaney. I will talk to people who love ME and can really hear me (that's a short list y'all!).
Go back to step one. Because...